Ever wanted to learn something and it seems that people that know best, just seem to not want to help you? How tragic?
First I would like to say “God bless you” to those very few that teach those whom seek knowledge from the initial point of point blank with no monetary gain. I personally have a hard time teaching my peers that have interest but no initiative to do what they are seeking to accomplish. It’s perhaps, a personal flaw that I need to work on, but by no mean I am speaking on behalf of yourself or anyone else but it is just what I have seen during my short time span here in the world, and how I feel at times.
Characters; Herman (Guru), Lucy (Noon) [Fictional]
Scenario; Lucy wants to learn web development. Lucy does not have the belief or confidence that she can learn “web development” on her own. She wants to do things the right way.
Herman is a self-made rock start web developer, and knows Lucy since a young age. Herman gets a phone call from Lucy, “Hey, Herman think you have some time to teach me web development. I would like to build my own web application to help people”. Herman “Hey, Lucy, listen I’m really busy and I don’t think I’ll be able to help you”.
Lucy does not take the time or initiative to learn without the aid of Herman. Lucy takes this a bit personal and holds a grudge against Herman.
Let’s Discuss; the scenario above my have happened to you before as Lucy or as Herman, but why didn’t Herman help her? If Herman has known Lucy since a young age, why didn’t he help her? What a [bleep].
The scenario above can have so many different variables. Herman perhaps says “yes, but not right not”, “maybe in a few months”, and maybe he says “sure” but never gets the time to help Lucy out. I believe people in general want to help.
Real Questions; if Lucy is really interested in learning web development why didn’t she just use her finger tips?
Now the world is literally at our finger tips, with a few keyboard press and a hit on the enter key you can start your education in seconds.
Conclusion; if Lucy would have taken the initiative to learn just a small amount about web development then I believe the scenario would have totally different. Lucy could have said “Hey Herman, you are the best person I know at web development and I have been trying to learn and I am stuck here...”, perhaps Herman could have said “That’s awesome, you need to look into Y and Z, perhaps that will help you out if not we can meet for lunch/dinner, and figure this out”.
The point is that when you take the initiative to educate yourself whether you choose formal training, or self-training then those who know more can explain things easier to you and are more likely willing to help you. Imagine someone asking you to help them learn something you really know well, but you see no initiative in them to learn on their own. How does that make you feel?